Wisdom is a Matter of the Heart
By Irene Koha
Wisdom is a desirable quality that I always wanted to have. James tells us that God will give it without finding fault if we ask with faith (James 1:5-6). That is an amazing promise! But what I was imagining at first was not exactly the godly definition of wisdom. It was more a quality of the mind, the ability to say the right thing at the right time. Of course that’s a great thing if you’re good at it, but the godly definition goes way beyond this, it includes my way of life, my personal example.
Who is wise and understanding among you? Let him show it by his good life, by deeds done in the humility that comes from wisdom. James 3:13
But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere. Peacemakers who sow in peace raise a harvest of righteousness. James 3:17
It’s been so encouraging to read about Wyndham’s wisdom on Wednesdays. His life exemplifies the godly wisdom described above. Valdur and I are very privileged to know Wyndham and Jeanie for many years, to be discipled, counseled and mentored by them and to work together on many projects locally and in Europe. Wyndham, without a doubt, had the greatest influence any person has had on the both of us.
Friday mornings, every other week, were our times with Wyndham and Jeanie. We talked about marriage, parenting and ministry – often after an introduction that summarized and evaluated the latest Patriots or Red Sox game. As we were working on marriage issues for many years, Wyndham and Jeanie got to know us very well. They knew us so well, that I was taken by surprise when Wyndham brought up the possibility of eldership for Valdur – that was many years ago. Did he not see all the obstacles that were so big in my mind, but did not seem to cloud the vision that Wyndham had for my husband? I’m sure now that he did see, but his faith was greater than the facts. He always believed in change, overcoming and growth. He was merciful with failures and considerate in his rebukes and encouragements. Because he is obviously a godly and thoughtful man I decided to trust his judgments versus my own. It was clear to me that God was using Wyndham in our life to help us change and become more useful in his kingdom.
So Wyndham’s wisdom in our life was characterized by a gentle approach, by great mercy and much good fruit. He believed in us despite all our weaknesses and struggles. He never appeared frustrated, angry or impatient. His advice was always impartial, careful to see both sides. He was a good listener and he spoke with discernment and authority. God used Wyndham’s wisdom and perseverance to change us and help our marriage to get to a completely new place. For many years, fifteen or more, every other Friday morning, sharing with us his heart of wisdom, Wyndham gave us God’s perspective and vision for our lives, for which I am forever grateful.